she kept pushing and asking me to share, and it made me feel clearly physically uncomfy (red face, stutter, fidgeting). I didn't really know why I numb emotions (besides "that's just the way it is!") r/therapy: Seek therapy from the Reddit hivemind for your real or imagined glitches of the head. Talk therapies, including cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavioral therapy can be extremely beneficial to your mental health if you stick with it, and attend regular sessions. What does it mean for a therapist to be "LGBTQ-informed”? I also send emails to my therapist if I have second doubts about what I said in a session and she always reassures me that she believes everything I say. People (including my T) are, I believe, always really annoyed by me constantly needing to make sure something is really meant, but my trust issues haunt me 24/7. It also can be used as a resource for people considering entering therapy or who have questions about it. Trust yourself. Couples therapy is available for $99/week (billed as $396 monthly) or $89/week (billed $1,068 every 3 months). i'm so proud of myself for branching out of my comfort zone and i was excited to tell her. Thank you. Now... let me sit with the feeling. Do you ever feel like you're either exaggerating or downplaying your problems within therapy sessions, but can't even tell what you're really feeling or how you're really doing anymore? When I brought this up with a therapist in the past she said that my symptoms are clearly very real. Failure to do so will result in the removal of your post. Having "nothing to say" during sessions and feeling anxious about it, Question for therapists about personality disorders. Now I’m the opposite where I’m generally ok in between sessions but the second I start talking in sessions, usually about nothing in particular I start crying out of nowhere. and join one of thousands of communities. If their licensing board were notified, they would likely have their licensed revoked and be banned from practicing in at least their own state, likely others, too. And a sexual or intimate relationship as a form of therapy is not recognized as valid by those licensing boards. Many people mistakenly believe that therapy is simply a place to vent about one’s problems. I think I mainly tend to 'intellectualize' them; explain them to myself (and her); try to explain the origin of it all and the effects it has - almost as if I'm talking about someone else or as if I'm the analyst. From what I understand, there’s not a government-regulated licensure board for that role, and the legal side of that work carries some risk. For me, I pick the main thing on the list that I want to talk about, or the main theme, if there's some commonalities. The whole 'letting the therapist take control'-thing is definitely something I should consider. One predictor of whether therapy will work… [–]lil8mochi 0 points1 point2 points 40 minutes ago (0 children). On the other, there is such an enourmous amount of risk involved for the proxy that I can't imagine anyone opening themselves up to that kind of liability. But occasionally I encounter a client whose condition has been made worse, not better, as a result of being in therapy. But of course this is impossible since I've said what I said and she's not just gonna forget about it. From your post you sound like someone who greatly values honesty. And then I'm struggling with both my issues (that return during the week) and the embarrassment that I let her see me like that. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions/feelings after sessions (often react with unhealthy coping mechanisms) but cannot pick them apart, I think, not really. Yeah, exactly. Allow yourself to breathe and feel. Now totally sold on the concept, I jumped … A little stressed about conversation my therapist had with me regarding my insurance. It helps me numb them a little. i recently became interested in poetry and i hadn't told my therapist yet. For me, what commonly comes up is "acceptance of my illness" and "self compassion". ), [–]sadwitht 7 points8 points9 points 5 hours ago* (1 child). If therapy… Since I'm never feeling any of it during a session, tho, (why is that btw???) But here’s the reality: Therapy is an incredibly useful tool that helps with a range of issues, from anxiety to sleep to relationships to trauma. Honesty and especially authenticity matter a lot to me, yeah. Have you tried going deeper into the emotions ? I’m not one, nor have I ever been to one, so I’m only speaking from what I’ve heard people discussing in some of my professional circles. It really helped! REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 13861 on r2-app-06033d01d1cbc18df at 2020-12-20 23:43:09.896304+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. Thinking of entering a training program myself. I guess I should bring it all up. [–]NaturalLemon2 2 points3 points4 points 3 hours ago (3 children). That stigma is often why people don’t seek help in the first place. Let your best effort be food enough. (T sexual abuse etc). It can mean a few different things. Claims of professional qualifications are NOT verified by the mods. I downplay more than I exaggerate, but it helps that she and I are both aware I do this. I mean, is there any way to somehow.. balance this out or find out what you're really feeling or which feelings are real and worth being discussed? I'm (I would say) rather well spoken when I'm prepared but when she manages to take me off guard, brings up a topic I did not expect, I'm mainly lost. [–]FailAmazingly 17 points18 points19 points 5 hours ago (1 child). [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 hours ago (2 children). Don’t get me wrong; talk therapy has been helpful to a large number of people. But I also know this feeling of frustration and regret when I didn't mention something that would've been important. There is an increase in farm vehicle traffic on Iowa roadways during harvest. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. I take this whole thing as a learning process and I try not to overthink it because it's not something that can be solved easily. I'm so intrigued by this. Having been in both ends of the spectrum I can say that they both suck and are frustrating and hard and feelings are so goddamn illogical ><, [–]SlyFrog 0 points1 point2 points 1 hour ago (0 children). "I’d rather talk to my friends." That sounds really good. Therapists are professionals working a skilled trade, let them work. One benefit of talk therapy is its persistence over a long period of time. Find the info you need about business, education, health, government, & more. It sounds like this would very much be a situation where word-of-mouth advertising would be the only safe bet for a client. <3, [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 2 points3 points4 points 3 hours ago (2 children). Talk about THAT. Led by Brené Brown, a researcher who studies human connection, this talk humorously explores our innate ability to empathize, connect, and love each other (and ourselves). Reddit is a network of communities based on people's interests. Online therapy differs from in-person therapy in several ways. Posted Nov 06, 2010 It’s a form of surrogate partner therapy, in which the surrogate partner (often a sexologist or similar, but ethically cannot be a licensed counselor, therapist, or psychologist) participates in real or simulated intimate situations with the client in order to help them work through their sexual/emotional issues. iowa.gov is a hub of resources for Iowans. I know that there are proxies like this who engage in BDSM and kink practices with clients—I’ve interacted with a few who are very willing to do what the client needs, but I’ve never pried into specifics. And sometimes I feel like the latter is making it all worse and maybe playing down my problems would at least lessen this part. Should I try to rely on my therapist less even though she doesn’t mind? [–]Shenanigansandtoast 18 points19 points20 points 6 hours ago (0 children), [–]sadwitht 6 points7 points8 points 5 hours ago (3 children). Clients paying for sexual services can get dicey, even if the proxy isn’t necessarily having sex with the client. You don't need to know why you do something before you can work on it, that can come through the process of working through the symptom of numbing itself. [–]Derpywalnut 0 points1 point2 points 2 hours ago (0 children), I used to feel like this where is cry uncontrollably in between sessions and then be stoic and perfectly ok during sessions because I couldn’t let my defences down. I’d be curious about your concern that your therapist sees you a certain way and what that means, if it’s recreated in other relationships,etc. Share on LinkedIn ... clinical trials targeting this condition with customized talk therapy. It makes you cringe, and smile, and cry. Talk Therapy: Off the Couch and into the Lab Researchers gather evidence that talk therapy works -- and keeps on working By Raymond A. Yes we want you to share the story but we also need the feeling so we can process and work through it. I can tell she gets really sad I lied, but is glad I tell her when I do it. Yes, I feel like I exaggerate it too. On the other hand, I can't really have a fake "break down" like the therapists seem to want just to show them how things are. Those seeking psychological help may be better served by posting in sister subreddits such as: Obvious anti-therapy trolls will have their posts removed and be permanently banned from the sub. Put simply, talk therapy is where you speak with a trained therapist, whether one-on-one, in group session or online therapy platforms. Having a trusted person to talk to is very important for one's mental health and overall happiness. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 12 points13 points14 points 5 hours ago (0 children). REASONS WHY TALK THERAPY DIDN’T WORK FOR ME 1. Wow. It wasn't exactly a topic, but is more of a given; it's just not common. Do you ever feel like you're either exaggerating or downplaying your problems within therapy sessions, but can't even tell what you're really feeling or how you're really doing anymore? use the following search parameters to narrow your results: This is a place for clients and patients to discuss and share links about psychotherapy. Therapy is about you, it’s not a normal give and take relationship. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 hours ago* (1 child). My therapist also lists himself as a bdsm/kink therapist... what exactly does that entail/ how could he help me in that regard? I've found it's not so much the individual item that I need to talk about (well, not always), but the theme of how that situation made me feel. I feel like it's both because I want to get somewhere, work through it all and not forget about anything important.. and because letting her take control and lead me somewhere scares me. Would you be open to talking a bit about your training? [–]hermit_the_fraud 9 points10 points11 points 27 days ago (4 children). Even if my memories or retelling are imperfect, I am struggling with very real issues and deserve compassion. The need to talk about your emotions is seen as something to poke fun at, weak or shameful. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 hours ago (0 children). You’re also going to run into sexologists who use that term (although I’m of the opinion that they shouldn’t do that)—they’re more about instructional work. The benefits of talk therapy prove that through discussing and bettering one's life, alleviation from trauma can be reached. (T sexual abuse etc). That's a really interesting point, tho. And I can't deal well with that. I also have found it really helpful to understand why I have these avoidant behaviours, what are they protecting? [–]Tiny_Mirror_7251 2 points3 points4 points 27 days ago (0 children). [–]hermit_the_fraud 5 points6 points7 points 27 days ago (1 child). I've done that as well for a while; taking notes during the week. I feel like I'm going through this same circle and struggle every week and can't seem to find a way out of it. :) but therapy is about that uncomfortable. Therapy Does Talk Therapy Really Work? [–]strawberrytasha 4 points5 points6 points 6 hours ago (0 children), [–]imhavingaparoxysm 4 points5 points6 points 5 hours ago (1 child). (And probably during?) until it came up through therapy, and then with my therapist I've been able to slowly drill down and discover where those behaviours came from. I had had a revelation that had eluded me through years of talk therapy, in two days of text therapy. She knows I downplay most things because I avoid wanting to talk about it. Those seeking psychological help may be better served by posting in sister subreddits such as: Obvious anti-therapy trolls will have their posts removed and be permanently banned from the sub. It is a safe and supportive setting where individuals can learn health coping skills to manage their mental health symptoms. Yes, all of this, every appointment just about, word for word!! If you could share this thought/ concern with your therapist it would probably allow for a lot of movement in session and take some pressure of if you to try and 100% accurately depict what happened. It also can be used as a resource for people considering entering therapy or who have questions about it. Therapy Does Talk Therapy Really Work? Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. What exactly is a kink therapist? You might not feel any of that during the session because you are a strong and resilient person who was able to deal with the stressor on your own and did not need your therapist to help you work through it. And when I've brought up one item on the list and really processed that in the appointment, I often find the things I learnt/realised apply to other items on the list too. Traditional talk therapy may make your problems worse. That would be your best bet to find out. So presumably, yes, they could be open to those things. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 2 hours ago (0 children). Ethically speaking, a licensed therapist, counselor, clinical social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist is firmly prohibited from engaging in sexual relationships with their clients, often for a set period of time after the professional relationship ends. [–]Shenanigansandtoast 1 point2 points3 points 2 hours ago (1 child). This TED Talk came highly recommended by multiple Reddit users. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 7090 on r2-app-0b683e10505f328f3 at 2020-12-20 23:43:11.665459+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. Why it’s useful, anyway “It’s kind of like pornography,” says Gottlieb. Failure to do so will result in the removal of your post. You're not feeling it cuz you're not allowing yourself to feel it. I'm very often seriously at loss and don't even know whether I'm exaggerating or downplaying and what I'm feeling at all. It makes logical sense that I don’t trust my own perceptions and feelings now. Rendered by PID 7090 on r2-app-0b683e10505f328f3 at 2020-12-20 23:43:11.665459+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. Ok that is my analysis. I am really curious about the ethical aspects and logistics. I'm struggling with that a lot, just 'letting therapy happen' so to say. As far as I’m aware, most don’t have outright sex with the client, but they may engage in sexual behavior. all I can do is 'retell' what I felt during the week and it then often feels to me like I'm exaggerating or even faking things or as if I'm just trying to get my therapist's attention/empathy. The message is clear: Take your therapist off the pedestal and take ownership of your therapy. I’m an introvert, so anything with “talk” in the name is probably doomed to failure from the get-go. I always go into sessions fully prepared; I've already worked through it all, thought about it all, did all the work myself, basically, while actually being completely overwhelmed by it. I was so angry I couldn’t talk about the thing I wanted to bring up (a relationship issue with a maybe-ex-friend), and this was going to be a first for me - actually bringing something up to talk about and ask for his help/support around. In the words of commenter Jeratain: “I cannot recommend this TED Talk enough.” One researcher looks at the data. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 hours ago (2 children), How did your T react when you brought it up? Talk therapy is one of the most widely used types of therapy, and for a good reason. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 1 hour ago (1 child). Talk therapy has proven to be extremely effective when treating a wide array of mental disorders. I’m training to be a sex therapist, and I am certain he’ll be open to telling you more about it. i didn't share. Usually that’s for people who want to explore kinks in a safe manner. Going to therapy for the first time is like writing and writing nonstop for your whole life, and finally sitting down to read it all out loud. Like you, I struggle during the week but when my session comes I feel so detached from it, and when I try to talk about it there's voice that goes "no, you're fine, you're just attention-seeking." I still feel like being this open and vulnerable tends to hurt me more than it does help. ( if they are a good and valuable thing for a client whose condition has been helpful to why. She doesn ’ t know ] sadwitht 7 points8 points9 points 5 hours ago * ( 1 )... 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